Magic Bullets

1. Fundamentals Trump Systems: Master the Basics of Attraction

If you’ve taken care of the fundamentals, any reasonable system can work.

Fundamentals over flash. While dating systems can provide structure, true success lies in mastering the fundamentals of self-improvement, understanding female psychology, developing social intuition, cultivating an attractive lifestyle, and honing essential skills. Like a basketball team with skilled players, any reasonable strategy can work if the fundamentals are solid.

The myth of the One True Path. Avoid the trap of blindly following a single guru or system, as this can lead to rigidity and an inability to adapt to individual situations. Instead, focus on developing a broad understanding of attraction and relationship dynamics. The One True Path fallacy is seductive, because it fits in nicely with human psychological patterns, especially in males.

Continuous self-improvement. The journey to success with women is not a sprint but a marathon. Embrace a mindset of continuous learning, experimentation, and refinement, and be willing to challenge your beliefs and assumptions. Dating science does not respect absolute laws like physical science does, no matter how tempting it is to think that it does.

2. Emotional Progression Model: A Roadmap to Relationships

You create mutual attraction before you build comfort.

Sequential emotional journey. The Emotional Progression Model (EPM) outlines the stages a woman experiences from initial meeting to a relationship: Approaching, Transitioning, Attraction, Qualification, Comfort, Seduction, and Relationship. Understanding this sequence allows you to tailor your actions to her emotional state.

Key insights of the EPM:

• Attraction precedes Qualification and Comfort.
• Qualification precedes Comfort.
• Comfort precedes Seduction.
• Seduction precedes Relationships.

Emotional momentum. Each phase builds upon the previous one, creating momentum that propels the relationship forward. Stalling in any phase can lead to boredom or frustration, while smoothly transitioning through each stage increases the likelihood of success. You can’t stay in any particular phase forever. It will bore or frustrate most women.

3. Approaching: Overcoming Fear and Initiating Contact

Always start talking to a woman within a few seconds of seeing her.

Confront approach anxiety. Approaching is a skill, not a personality test. Overcome fear by realizing rejection isn't personal, warming up with practice, using opinion openers, and creating incentives.

Types of openers:

• Functional: Low risk, but difficult to transition.
• Opinion: Neutral, buying time to demonstrate value.
• Situational: Spontaneous, relating to the environment.
• Screening: Challenging, implying you're evaluating her.
• Direct: High risk, high reward, expressing clear interest.

Non-verbal communication is key. Project confidence, make eye contact, smile, and maintain a relaxed posture. Your non-verbal cues often speak louder than your words.

4. Transitioning: From Opener to Engaging Conversation

Transitioning turns a simple interaction into a longer conversation by introducing at least one new topic and changing the dynamic of your interaction.

Bridging the gap. Transitioning connects the initial approach to the Attraction phase by turning a single-subject interaction into a normal, free-flowing conversation. This phase is crucial for moving beyond superficial exchanges.

Types of transitions:

• Content: Using her response to shift to a new topic.
• Observational: Noticing something about her or the group.
• Phrasal: Using connecting phrases like "That reminds me of..."
• No Transition: Simply starting a new, unrelated topic.

Enthusiasm is essential. Convey genuine interest in the new topic to carry the conversation and your listener(s) with you.

5. Attraction: Creating Desire Beyond Physicality

A woman’s value is based on her desirability to men in general.

Value dynamics. Attraction is created when a woman perceives your value as equal to or greater than hers. This involves demonstrating desirable qualities and triggering emotional responses.

Five ways to DHV (Demonstrate Higher Value):

• She observes it.
• She learns of it from a trusted personal source.
• She learns of it from a neutral source.
• She learns of it from a source that is biased to you.
• You tell her.

Disqualification. Disqualify yourself early to show you're not just another admirer. This can be done through playful teasing or stating preferences that she doesn't meet.

6. Qualification: Earning Your Interest, Not Just Receiving It

Just because she is interested in you is NOT a reason for you to be interested in her.

The inverse of attraction. Qualification is the phase where she works to win your interest, demonstrating attractive qualities beyond her looks. This process validates your interest and makes her feel special.

Finding attractive qualities:

• Look for genuine qualities that are important to you.
• Help her qualify herself by asking open-ended questions.
• Reward her when she reveals positive qualities.

Pulling back. After complimenting her, create a challenge by playfully teasing or expressing doubt. This maintains tension and prevents her from becoming complacent.

7. Comfort: Building Trust and Connection

Concentrate on getting to know each other across a wide variety of topics as opposed to talking about one subject in detail.

Establishing a safe space. Comfort involves building emotional intimacy, finding commonalities, and creating a sense of connection. This phase is crucial for establishing trust and making her feel comfortable in a sexual situation.

The Basic Comfort List:

• Learning about each others’ life, job, friends, hobbies, family, etc.
• Finding commonalities: similar interests, similar experiences.
• Discovering shared values.
• Sharing vulnerabilities.
• Winning peer approval (her friends and/or family like you).
• Doing activities together.
• Making future plans.
• Projecting future adventures.
• Leading her through a range of emotions, including some strong ones.
• Being trustworthy, especially in situations in which she has to rely on her trust in you (e.g., being in your house alone with you).
• Not pressuring her for sex.

Peer group approval. Win over her friends to create a supportive environment and increase her comfort level.

8. Seduction: Navigating Intimacy with Sensitivity

Seduction is primarily based on intensifying her willingness to have sex with you and mitigating her reasons not to.

Addressing resistance. Seduction is about being alone with her and progressing toward sex. Women may resist sex due to societal pressures, fear of judgment, or concerns about safety. Address these concerns with sensitivity and respect.

The ABD model:

• Avoid state breaks: Plan to minimize jarring interruptions.
• Blur state breaks: Mix comfortable activities with new ones.
• Distract from state breaks: Engage her attention with something else.

Logistics matter. Create a comfortable and conducive environment for intimacy.

9. Direct Game: Boldness and Clarity of Intent

Direct game involves making your intentions known in the initial approach, which conveys a very strong masculine identity.

Expressing clear interest. Direct game involves making your romantic or sexual intentions explicit from the outset. This approach conveys confidence and can be highly effective with certain women.

Key elements of direct game:

• Build pre-approach value: Maximize your appearance and non-verbal communication.
• Demonstrate passion and energy: Be enthusiastic and engaging.
• Calibrate to the situation: Tailor your opener to the context.
• Qualify and build attraction simultaneously: Show interest while evaluating her.
• Exude sexuality: Make small sexual comments early on.

Move quickly. Progress the relationship as fast as possible, adding comfort as needed.

10. Social Circle: Leveraging Existing Connections

Social circle – advantages

Tapping into existing networks. Social circle game involves developing relationships with women within your existing social network. This approach offers several advantages over cold approaches.

Advantages of social circle game:

• Higher assumed value.
• Increased trust and credibility.
• Reduced flakiness.
• Opportunities for observation.
• Easier logistics.

Strategies for success:

• Cultivate your friends and treat them with respect.
• Be mindful of your reputation.
• Avoid workplace romances unless you're highly skilled.

11. Day Game: Seizing Opportunities in Everyday Life

You meet a greater variety (and some would say quality) of beautiful women.

Meeting women on the go. Day Game involves approaching women in everyday situations outside of traditional nightlife venues. This approach expands your opportunities and allows you to meet a wider range of women.

Advantages of Day Game:

• Increased variety of women.
• Less competition.
• Opportunities for unique interactions.
• Flexibility to fit into your schedule.

Venues and strategies:

• The street: Use direct openers and act quickly.
• Shopping malls: Employ opinion openers and engage the group.
• Coffee shops: Start indirectly and build comfort gradually.
• Museums/Art Galleries: Focus on creative-minded women and build emotional connections.
• Buses, Trains and Subways: Maximize limited time with strong openers and solid phone game.

12. Non-Verbal Communication: The Unspoken Language of Attraction

Most women actually don’t even know that this stuff attracts them.

Beyond words. Non-verbal communication, including tonality and body language, plays a crucial role in conveying your message and creating attraction. Mastering these cues can significantly enhance your success with women.

Tonality:

• Volume: Be louder and more commanding.
• Speed: Pace your delivery and avoid rushing.
• Pitch: Deepen your voice and use vocal modulation.

Body language:

• Maintain good posture: Stand tall and take up space.
• Make eye contact: Hold eye contact confidently.
• Relax your facial muscles: Avoid tension and fidgeting.
• Use open and inviting gestures: Keep your hands visible and avoid crossing your arms.

Last updated: March 14, 2025