Key Takeaways
1. Sex is More Psychological Than Physical
And, psychological stimulation is the most important aspect of sex.
Mind over matter. While physical technique has its place, the real key to becoming great in bed lies in stimulating the mind. Women don't fantasize about perfect physical stimulation; they fantasize about sex, which is a deeply psychological experience.
Psychological stimulation is key. Men spend billions on making themselves attractive, yet a sex toy can replicate the physical sensation of a vagina for fifty bucks. The difference? Psychological stimulation. It's the difference between masturbation and sex with a beautiful woman.
Psychological stimulation is more important for women. Women can buy vibrators and dildos for perfect physical stimulation, but these are poor substitutes for the real thing. The key to great sex lies in ways to stimulate the mind, not just the body.
2. Dominance is Key to Female Sexual Excitement
However, in the absence of Dominance there is no sexual satisfaction.
Evolutionary roots. Women are instinctively programmed to respond to dominant men due to millions of years of evolution. In primitive societies, alpha males were the leaders and protectors, and women who chose them had a higher chance of survival for themselves and their offspring.
Social taboo. Our society has made the female desire to be submissive to a dominant male taboo. Women are socially conditioned to repress their desire to be dominated, and men are conditioned to repress their desire to dominate.
Dominance is key. Women may not consciously express it, but they all deeply desire to be submissive to a powerful man. In the absence of Dominance, there is no sexual satisfaction.
3. Instinct and Desire Trump Technique
What a woman truly wants is a man who understands sex at a deep level, who is in touch with his animal desires and free of inhibiting social conditioning.
Beyond technique. Women don't want a man who is an expert on the anatomy of the vagina or someone who knows fifty-three different cunnilingus techniques. They want a man who understands sex at a deep level, who is in touch with his animal desires and free of inhibiting social conditioning.
Unlearning, not learning. Achieving sexual mastery is not a matter of learning complex techniques, but rather a matter of unlearning social conditioning and overcoming insecurities. It's about getting in touch with your true instincts and helping her get in touch with her own animal nature.
Be natural. It is overly simplistic to say that this means you should just “be natural” in bed. We are all deeply ingrained with social programming, which we cannot just forget on command.
4. Sex is the Ultimate Attraction Method
As well as being the ultimate human experience, sex is the ultimate way to make a female attracted to you.
Emotional bonds. Sex is the most intensely emotional act we are capable of, and during sex, it is impossible to shield our emotions. During and after sex, you can access the deepest of a woman’s emotions directly and create incredibly strong bonds of attraction.
Beyond seduction. Many guys consider the first time you have sex with a woman the end of a seduction; I do not. I consider it the beginning.
Loyalty through satisfaction. If you can provide her with better sex than anyone else, you have guaranteed her loyalty even if you are having sex with other girls yourself. There is no incentive for her to be unfaithful when nobody else can compare to you.
5. Master the Four Elements of the Sex God Method: DEVI
The Four Elements together are referred to as DEVI, with each Element being represented by its first letter.
The DEVI model. The Sex God Method is based on four key elements: Dominance, Emotion, Variety, and Immersion (DEVI). These elements are the foundation of good sex and should be used as the basis of your sex life.
Psychological over physical. DEVI incorporates the Four Principles of Sexuality, especially the first one, Psychological over Physical Stimulation.
The weakest link. A guiding principle to use when modeling your sexual encounters with DEVI is that of the weakest link. If any of your sexual Elements is substantially below the others, the quality of your sex will be limited to how much progress you have made in this Element.
6. Dominance: The Alpha's Bedroom Power
Dominance is the foundation of all male sexual power.
Instinctual desire. The desire to be dominated by an alpha male is one of the deepest desires of every woman. In the absence of Dominance, there is no sexual excitement.
Dominance is fundamental. A base level of Dominance is required to achieve success in the other three sexual Elements. For this reason, Dominance should be the first area of focus if you are a sexual novice.
Dominance is a mentality. You must internalize the belief that as a male, you are inherently dominant, and as a female, she is inherently submissive. This is both right and natural. Although she can never verbalize it, deep down she craves the fucking that only a dominant alpha male can give her.
7. Emotion: Intensifying the Sexual Bond
I have found that the more intense the emotions before and during sex, the more intensely pleasurable and satisfying the sex will be.
Emotion and sex are intertwined. The more intense the emotions before and during sex, the more intensely pleasurable and satisfying the sex will be. This is true for men, but it is doubly true for women because they are capable of even greater emotional highs and lows than we are.
Emotion is a snowball. At first, you will have to increase Emotion in ways that will only add a tiny bit to the snowball. You may not notice much difference in the sex at first, but it will pay off later.
Heighten emotional investment. In all your sexual relationships, you should work to heighten your partner’s emotional investment in you. This will intensify and deepen all your sexual experiences together.
8. Variety: Keeping the Spark Alive
From this, I learned that too much of a good thing is a bad thing.
Variety is critical. Variety, the third Element of sex, is critical for sexual satisfaction. Variety is the reason why we expend so much effort to fuck a bunch of different girls, when we could get as much or more sex from one girl if we were monogamous.
Mix it up. What you want to remember in any sexual relationship is to always mix it up on every level. Sometimes you want to provide intensely dominant sex, sometimes intensely emotional.
Keep it fresh. By continually mixing it up in these and many other ways we will discuss later, you can keep the sex in your relationship fresh and exciting for a lifetime.
9. Immersion: The Gateway to Ultimate Pleasure
In order for the sex to be good, both you and your partner have to be able to let yourselves go.
Absence of thoughts. In order to fo the sex to be good, both you and your partner have to be able to let yourselves go. You have to let go of all logical thoughts and exist solely through feelings, Emotion and desire.
Insecurities and worries. The biggest causes of disrupting thoughts in bed are insecurities and worries. In the Sex God Method you will learn ways to minimize these disrupting thoughts.
Meditation. If you are not currently getting a lot of sexual experience, I recommend meditation as a way to start improving your Immersion right now. Later on, sex itself will become the best way for you to practice achieving mental stillness.
10. Physical Stimulation: The Foundation, Not the Focus
With physical stimulation, you should aim for competency.
Foundation, not the focus. Physical stimulation is the necessary foundation, but the real art of sex lies in psychological stimulation.
Erection quality and stamina. The two most important Elements of your physical technique (erection quality and stamina) directly stem from your own psychological state. These problems can rarely have medical causes, but 90% of the time they are caused by psychological problems in men.
Competency, not mastery. With physical stimulation, you should aim for competency. With psychological stimulation, you should aim for mastery.
11. Overcome Limiting Beliefs to Unleash Your Sexual Potential
All thought in bed are manifestations of insecurities.
Limiting beliefs. Constantly low levels of Immersion can often be traced back to insecurities stemming from a few persistent limiting beliefs. If you wish to achieve sexual mastery, you must destroy these beliefs totally.
Common limiting beliefs. Some common limiting beliefs include: "My penis is too small," "Women don't want Dominance," and "Sex is morally wrong."
Eliminate limiting beliefs. By recognizing and challenging these false beliefs, you can overcome insecurities and unlock your full sexual potential.
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Review Summary
Sex God Method receives mixed reviews, with many praising its psychological insights and DEVI framework (Dominance, Emotion, Variety, Immersion) for improving sexual experiences. Readers appreciate the book's emphasis on mental aspects over physical techniques. However, some criticize its misogynistic tone and lack of scientific backing. Many found it eye-opening and transformative for their sex lives, while others felt uncomfortable with its explicit content and questionable advice. The book is generally seen as helpful for men seeking to enhance their sexual performance, but controversial in its approach.
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