Act Like a Success, Think Like a Success

1. Uncover Your Gift: It's Already Within You

Your gift is the single thing that you do at your absolute best with the least amount of effort.

Inherent talent. Everyone possesses a unique gift, something they excel at effortlessly. This gift isn't necessarily a job or title, but a natural ability that can be applied across various aspects of life. It's not about passion or talent, but about what you do best with minimal effort.

Identifying your gift. To discover your gift, reflect on what others consistently praise you for. What comes easily to you that others find challenging? It could be problem-solving, listening, mediating, cooking, or communicating with children. Your gift is inherent, not learned, and sets you apart.

Gift vs. job. Don't confuse your gift with your job. Your job is merely a vehicle for expressing your gift. For example, if your gift is serving, you might work in the hospitality industry, but your gift extends beyond your job title. It's about finding the right vehicle to maximize your gift and bring you fulfillment.

2. Excuses Are Lies: Embrace Opportunities, Not Roadblocks

Excuses are the lies you convince yourself are true to avoid proving you are worthy of the gift you were given.

Self-imposed limitations. Excuses are self-defeating narratives that prevent you from pursuing your dreams. They are lies you tell yourself to avoid taking responsibility for your gift. Common excuses include fear of failure, lack of resources, or comparing yourself to others.

Overcoming excuses. To break free from excuses, acknowledge them, and replace them with expectations. Instead of saying "I can't," say "I will." Honesty is crucial; confront your fears and insecurities head-on. Remember, your gifts are opportunities waiting to be embraced.

Comparison is the thief of joy. Avoid comparing yourself to others, as this can stifle your potential. God created you uniquely, and your experiences, mistakes, and triumphs are what make you special. Focus on perfecting your own game, not someone else's.

3. Fear and Failure: Stepping Stones to Success

What I learned from that moment is that when you face your fears, they aren’t as big as you thought they were.

Embrace fear. Fear is a natural part of pursuing your dreams, but it shouldn't paralyze you. Facing your fears head-on diminishes their power. The longer you avoid them, the bigger they grow in your mind.

Failure is inevitable. Failure is an integral part of the success process. Most businesses fail within the first two years, and even successful people have faced numerous setbacks. Don't let failure paralyze you; instead, view it as a valuable learning experience.

Turn failure into fuel. Use failure as an opportunity to gain valuable experience and refine your approach. Learn from your mistakes and develop a new plan. Remember, failure is not the end; it's a stepping stone to success.

4. Vision is Key: Where There is No Vision, the People Perish

Where there is no vision, the people perish.

Perishing without vision. Living without a clear vision leads to a mundane existence, characterized by routine and a lack of purpose. This state of "perishing" is a slow, painful process that can trick you into thinking it's the way things are supposed to be. Without a vision, you strip yourself of blessings, relationships, and opportunities.

Dash deposits. To move from perishing to promise, make "dash deposits" – daily efforts to reach your destiny and add to your legacy. These can be small actions like reading a book, completing a project, or spending quality time with family.

Motivation from within. Motivation comes from within, not from external sources. Successful people know their gift and focus on it at all costs. Commit to taking the lid off your dream every day and refuse to settle for a life without purpose.

5. Your Gift Mark: Infuse Your Unique Flavor

Your gift mark is the flavor you add to your gift, showing the world that it has your DNA in it.

Distinctive touch. Your "gift mark" is the unique stamp you leave on the world every time you use your God-given talents and skills. It's what separates you from the pack and makes your gift stand out. Think of it as your personal brand, the flavor you add to your gift.

Finding your vehicle. Once you uncover your gift, find the right vehicle to transport you to the next level of success. This vehicle should complement your current level and help you perfect your gift. It could be a job, a business, or a volunteer opportunity.

Test drive and upgrade. Don't be afraid to test-drive different vehicles and upgrade as your gift grows. Your initial vehicle may not be your final destination. Be open to new opportunities and don't get stuck in a lemon.

6. Climb Your Mountain: Goals Turn Dreams into Reality

Goals are the key ingredient that helps us stay focused, consistent, and diligent on our path to achieving our dreams.

Dreams vs. goals. Dreams without goals remain just that – dreams. Goals are the practical steps that turn your dreams into reality. They provide focus, consistency, and diligence on your path to success.

Climbing the mountain. Think of your dream as the summit of a mountain. Each goal is a step forward, a pull of the rope, a pause to regain energy. Break down your climb into smaller, manageable sections.

SMART goals. Use the SMART method to create effective goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-Sensitive. This will help you stay on track and ensure your goals are realistic and achievable.

7. The Power of "No": Protect Your Gift and Vision

“No” is a powerful word.

Setting boundaries. Saying "no" is essential for protecting your gift and vision. It allows you to set personal standards and boundaries, which are crucial for success. Don't be afraid to say no to opportunities that don't align with your goals or values.

The 5 E's. Saying "no" gives you:

• Energy to focus on what matters
• Reduced ego by admitting you can't do everything
• Ability to empower others
• Power to end enabling
• Power to rob your enemy of your gift

The "No" Test. Use the "No" Test to determine which offers warrant a "no." Ask yourself if the opportunity aligns with your vision, supports your gift, benefits you and others, and aligns with your moral beliefs.

8. There is No Self-Made Man: Build Relationships and Ask for Help

There are no self-made men.

Interdependence. No one achieves great success alone. Building relationships and connecting with others is essential. Don't be too proud or stubborn to ask for help. God often uses other people to assist you in reaching your destiny.

Connect with dreamers. Surround yourself with like-minded individuals who share your vision and can fuel your motivation. These people can provide inspiration, advice, and support.

The power of asking. Be bold enough to ask for what you want. Many successful people are willing to help others, but you need to take the initiative. Don't be afraid of rejection; the worst they can say is "no."

9. Heal Your Haters Through Success: Don't Give Them a Pin to Stick You With

The only cure for enemies is success.

Opposition is inevitable. As you pursue success, you will encounter opposition, often in the form of "haters." Don't let them derail you. The only way to heal a hater is through success.

Don't engage. Never take your foot off the ladder to kick at someone who is kicking at you. Focus on your climb and leave the haters behind. They have no power over you unless you give it to them.

Four types of haters. Be aware of the different types of haters: the "I Hate Everything" hater, the "Drag You Down" hater, the "Situational" hater, and the "Self-Hate" hater. Learn to deflect their negativity and stay focused on your vision.

10. Life's Magical Balance: Home + Health + Finances = Success

Gaining life’s riches is about more than just earning a paycheck.

True wealth. True wealth encompasses more than just financial success. It includes quality time with loved ones, a sanctuary at home, and good health. Strive for balance in all areas of your life.

The Success Formula. Use the formula Home + Health + Finances = Success to guide your priorities. Ensure that each area receives at least 5% of your attention each week.

Protect your home. Treat your home and family as a sacred priority. Create a sanctuary where you can recharge and connect with loved ones. Don't let work or other obligations overshadow your family commitments.

Last updated: March 3, 2025